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I’m Struggling To Scale

I'm Struggling To Scale

I have a confession.

I need help, but I don’t know how to quite receive it.

Sometime back in June I hit the tipping point. The number of requests on my time started to outweigh the amount of time that I had. For once, I started to say no to interview requests or invitations to catch up over Skype.

Then in September I announced The Conference For Men and the floodgates opened.

I’ve spent a solid twelve hours a day in front of my laptop for the past several weeks. I’ve been meeting with dozens of colleagues, mentors, and advisors as I plan what’s sure to be a life changing experience for dozens of men.

I have a small core team. And I’m purposely keeping it small so the men who are a part of it get to be stretched, instead of having a core team of ten or twelve who are all being underutilized.

Sam Hershberger and Dave Booda are on the ground in San Diego scouting out venues and negotiating with vendors. Chris Arnold is making a killer website. And with their help (and the input of dozens of trusted advisors), I’m crafting a weekend that will blow these guys’ socks off.

The conference isn’t the only thing on my plate right now.

I’m also planning a retreat in January with Kyle and Nicky for six entrepreneurs to get their EXECUTE on. Full details to come within the next two weeks.

I also wrote a book in August (called “August”) and I’m working with Angela Lauria to get it published in the next two weeks.

I’m also redesigning my entire website with Katie Benedetto and I hope to have it up in the next two weeks as well.

Sounds a little stressful? It is.

I need help right now, but I don’t have the time to even figure out what to outsource.

And I have an extremely busy workload right now, but it’s mainly because I’m doing four things that I’ve never done before. Once everything is launched, I’ll go back to doing what I do best: coaching, speaking, and writing.

But damn, right now it just sucks a little. So what are my options?

I could hire a virtual assistant overseas from a service like Chris Ducker’s Virtual Staff Finder, but I don’t think I have enough work for a full time assistant.

I could hire a part-time employee here in the United States, but I’m not planning on having much business from February on. I’m actually thinking about closing up my coaching practice for a while to focus on the conference.

I could bring on an intern, but I’ll only need them for the next three to six months. That might actually be the best solution at this point.

I really don’t have an answer right now, but I just want to get this out in the open in the hopes that someone will jump in and offer a solution.

Because I know I’m not the only one in this boat.

I’m just not afraid to say it.

  • Poy TB

    Sometimes in life, you just need to choose ‘a decision’ … or not, that’s up to you of course! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  • Auren

    I think a clear sense of your desired outcomes here is going to help. What do you ultimately want out of all this? You need to have this clarity and direction for these dark moments.

  • louisepwo

    Delegate out as many things as possible that donโ€™t require your brain. Some things to consider for managing your team:
    – Give deadlines for deliverables/tasks even if itโ€™s a fake one to make sure things move forward
    – Use a project management tool to track tasks
    – โ€œGo figure it outโ€ only works if the person knows expectations and what the parameters are so be clear with both!
    – Have anyone on your team document their processes so that things can be replicated if need be.

    There isnโ€™t a one-stop shop person that can do everything so be aware of burning your team out too ๐Ÿ™‚

    Eventually you may need an Online Business Manager (sort of like a COO) that can take the management side off your plate, but until then I hope this helps. You’ve got this!

  • Kevin Cole

    If you decide on the internship, you should make it public, list all of the tasks and requirements you are looking for along with any form of compensation (coaching or money) and put it out there to see who applies.
    If you do that, I’m 99.99% sure I’m appying.

  • Annika Stahlberg

    Hey Mike,.
    I’m pretty sure its normal to hire VA’s on an as-needed hourly basis, especially if you go through an agency. One of the most time-saving steps is to Delegate email – give them the authority to write on your behalf, and they send you an update daily about what they’ve taken care of and how. Things that require your personal input are in a bulleted list, you can send back a voice recording of what you want them to reply, and done!
    Ifr you really need to focus on content creation or have alot of fairly simple back-end business that needs taking care of (but not necessarily by you) then a VA may be your best bet.
    Good luck, if you decide you need an intern, I’ll be applying!

    Ps- why did you do this to yourself? I know we all have busy and quiet phases, but aside from building momentum I can’t imagine why you’d want to redesign your site AND launch numerous events!
    Pps- if you find yourself typing a lot, maybe try Voxer app. It lets you do everything by speaking, saving time, energy and computer time ๐Ÿ™‚ good luck, you got this!

  • Melissa Maris

    And I thought it was a big deal that I built my first PayPal button this week… ๐Ÿ˜‰

  • Vlad C. Antohi

    I would be really curious on that internship too… Let us know how we can help!