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I’m Thinking About Doing Something

How many times have you heard someone say any of the following statements:

  • I’m thinking about losing weight
  • I’m thinking about quitting my job
  • I’m thinking about starting a business
  • I’m thinking about dating again
  • I’m thinking about writing a book

After the initial statement, they’ll talk in great detail about how they are going to achieve that goal. If it’s losing weight, they talk about the new diet they are thinking about trying or the CrossFit gym they are thinking about joining. If it’s starting a business, they talk about the great idea they have and how they think their product/service will be a great success. If it’s dating, they’ll talk about the dating sites or singles groups they are thinking about joining.

Usually after this conversation, some time will pass. Three months, six months or twelve months will pass and you’ll see them again in the same exact place.┬áTheir excuses?

  • Oh, I’ve been too busy
  • I’ve been so stressed out lately
  • I don’t know how to build a website
  • I had to the watch the first season of Game of Thrones

I’m going to let you in on a little secret.┬áThinking about doing something is the same as not doing it.

One more time for emphasis. Read it out loud this time.

Thinking about doing something is the same as not doing it.

The next time the words “I’m thinking about doing…” come out of your mouth, catch yourself. From here you have two choices.

1. Take Action

Take one tiny small step towards your goal. Throw away all the bad food away out of your house, buy a domain name and web hosting, or sign up for OkCupid. It doesn’t matter what the first step is as long as you take it now.

2. Decide Not To Take Action

Consciously decide that this goal isn’t worth doing. Make the choice to not to work out because you’re working on your startup. Make the choice to not start a business because you’re happy at your job. Make the choice to be single because you have more important things to focus on right now.

Then after discarding that idea, focus on goals that do matter.

Thinking is great.

Thinking about doing is deadly.

  • Jenna

    I had a friend in college tattoo “DECIDE” in huge block letters across her feet. She said “The option of not moving forward is making the decision to stay put, I don’t want that to ever be my option.”

    • Mike Hrostoski

      Ooh, bold. I like.

    • Nick Reese

      That is baller.

  • Joel Anderson

    Hey now, one mustn’t underestimate the level of awesomeness contained within a season of Game of Thrones.

    • Mike Hrostoski

      Haha, I was hoping someone said something about that. I’ve had at least five people in the past month tell me to watch the first season, hence the reference.

    • James M Ranson

      I was just about to say this! And yes, Mike, you should watch it–or better yet, you should READ it.

  • Stephanie Florence

    When it comes to taking action I recommend telling people. The more people I told about my big dream, the more I realized I had to follow through, for myself and for those who believed in me. It kept me accountable AND created one heck of a support system.

  • Drew Grubich

    the beartrap that is talking about talking about doing things… great post M

  • Peter Bryans


    Don’t know if you remember me, but I took your BA 499 class at OSU back in the Winter quarter of 2010. Anyways, I saw your site on your linked in profile and decided to check it out. I really enjoy reading it. You are an impressive writer. Keep it up, man.


    • Mike Hrostoski

      Thanks buddy. Of course I remember you. That was the best job I ever had. Hope all is well out there.