Step Into Your Greatness
I’m not a humble person.
The word humble actually makes me a little sick.
Let’s look at the dictionary definition of humble:
- Marked by meekness or modesty in behavior, attitude, or spirit; not arrogant or prideful.
- Showing deferential or submissive impact.
- Low in rank, quality, or station; unpretentious or lowly.
Why on earth would you value being low in rank or quality? Do you want people to know you as the lowly life coach or the lowly marketing consultant?
Seriously, tell me… how is being humble working out for you in your business?
A theme that comes up regularly in my coaching practice are clients not stepping into their greatness because someone once told them they were supposed to be humble. Often times these are successful, knowledgeable, relatively confident people, but for some reason they aren’t asking for the money that they are worth or they find it difficult to sell their products or services.
Try writing sales copy or asking for a referral while also trying to be modest, lowly, and submissive. It just doesn’t work.
No, I don’t consider myself humble. The word makes me cringe.
At the same time though, I’m not arrogant.
Let’s look at the dictionary definition for arrogant:
- Having or displaying a sense of overbearing self-worth or self-importance.
- Marked by or arising from a feeling or assumption of one’s superiority toward others.
Everyone is a human equal in my book. If you’ve met me in person, you know this is how I interact with every single human being who I have the privilege of coming into contact with. Whether it’s the person speaking to a group of ten thousand or the person cleaning up the trash afterwards, I acknowledge them equally with a smile and a thank you.
While I’m not arrogant, I own the fact that I’m a brilliant coach in high demand. I own the fact that I directly helped hundreds of people have better lives last year. And I own the fact that I am someone of great value who deserves the best. Those are just the facts.
At the same time, I’m clearly not the best coach in the world. I’m FAR from perfect. And I fail on a daily basis. If I said otherwise, I’d be lying to you.
And I’d be arrogant.
The way I see it, when you’re arrogant you’re lying to the world. You’re exaggerating how great you are and you are coming from a position of bragging to hide your own lack of self worth. Everyone knows you’re full of it.
On the other hand (and equally as damaging) when you’re humble you’re also lying to the world. You’re being an impostor. You’re pretending that you’re not great, when you really are. And you’re hiding your gifts to those who need it most.
Psst… I have a secret for you. Actually, it’s not really a secret. It’s just the truth…
You are an amazing person who has valuable gifts to share.
Think of all that you’ve accomplished. Think of all the challenges that you’ve faced to even be sitting here reading this right now. And think of the many, many times when you succeeded in life.
Whether you’re a stay at home mom, author, mechanic, or life coach, your life is an impressive body of work.
Why are you letting others with less skills get promoted before you? Why aren’t you telling your friend about your products and services when they clearly could benefit from them? And why do you keep telling yourself that she’s out of your league?
What you do and who you are is very valuable and you make the world a better place one way or another. You’re the best damn person in the world at ____________. Own that shit.
I invite you to step into your greatness. Leave a comment below telling the world why you’re great. And don’t be shy.