Be Outrageous With Your Ask
When I taught the Business Fundamentals class (public speaking, ethics, and corporate social responsibility) at Ohio State I used to always end every quarter with my version of the Last Lecture.
I called it “How To Live A Fantastic Life: aka What They Don’t Teach You In College.”
You can download it in it’s entirety here. Steal whatever you want for your personal use.
As I touched these students lives for the last time I wanted to gift them attitudes and mindsets that would help them have the most remarkable lives possible.
At the time, the 10 core attitudes for me were:
- Everything in life is negotiable
- I ask for what I want
- The world is my playground
- My integrity is all I have
- Everyone is a human equal
- I am the luckiest person ever
- My health is my most valuable asset
- Today is the most important day of my life
- I have everything I need already
- Life is all about relationships
They are still pretty much the same. It’s amazing looking back how I was doing coaching even when I didn’t really know what coaching was.
Lately though, I’ve switched one of these attitudes out for a stronger one.
I used to tell people: “Ask for what you want.”
Now I tell them:
Be Outrageous with your Ask
And I don’t just say that to my clients and friends for the sake of it. I’ve actually been walking my talk lately. For example…
1. I asked Carlos Miceli if he wanted to fly me out to Chile to be a mentor for Exosphere, a three month long entrepreneurial learning community and technology incubator. He said Yes.
So I’ll be living in Chile from November 25 to December 15 or so. Isn’t it beautiful? (see photo above)
2. I’m renting a mansion in Phoenix for two weeks in January. Assorted entrepreneurial activities are going to take place in the aforementioned mansion, more to come soon.
I emailed over a dozen mansion owners on a number of various home rental sites with an email clearly stating my purpose for the rental and my asking price which is 30-50% lower than what they have it listed for. Within the next week I’ll have a discount mansion on my hands (two words I thought I’d never use in the same sentence).
3. Felicia Spahr is going to be on The Raw Truth About Entrepreneurship on November 20 to talk about: How To Sell Yourself. She’s a killer copywriter who’s going to help you realize that selling is more about people, less about money, and more about being a better human. I can’t wait to have her on the show.
“In the meantime, what do you need from me so I can make your life easier for that day? Or in between?”
I replied with:
“Hmmmmmmm… I need at least nine of these T-shirts.
I need you to get really bold and make some outrageous asks by the end of the week. Let me know how it goes.
And it would be fun to connect over the phone sometime before the show.”
She replied back:
“Hahaha. Don’t tempt me. I will buy you 9 of those shirts.”
I replied back with my mailing address and she replied back with “…keep an eye on your mailbox.”
The moral of this story is you’re not asking enough.
And don’t just ask for what you want… Be outrageous with your ask.
Because someone just might say Yes.
And you just might find yourself traveling to Chile for free wearing a shirt with ten kittens on it.
PS – Let’s do a Contest shall we?…
It’s 3:45pm PST. If you’re reading this before the deadline of Monday, September 30 at 3:45pm, then I challenge you to make Outrageous Asks for the next 48 hours. The person with the best story wins a one hour coaching session with me ($500 value). Leave your story in the comments below on or my Facebook wall.
Fortune favors the brave my friend.
PPS – Don’t look at slide 22 of my Powerpoint. And especially not slide 23. I’m a changed man, I promise.