I Have No Shame

Today I’m teaching a three hour workshop on Sex here at the Trailblazer’s Retreat at Blue Osa Yoga Retreat and Spa in Costa Rica.

The workshop schedule just says “Sex with Mike Hrostoski from 12-3pm.” Hilarious.

One of the first things I’m going to do is dive headfirst into the pieces of our sexuality that we are ashamed of.

I like to think of the things that we are ashamed of as vampires. Put them out into the sun and they disintegrate. Shame when exposed to the light disappears.

I first found this out when I wrote this post on Sex, Booze and Masturbation. The second I clicked the button I almost immediately felt a weight lifted off of my chest.

Since then I’ve been slaying vampires left and right.

I walk a lot taller nowadays. I literally feel lighter. It’s easier to walk when you’re not carrying around the heavy burden of shame.

I recently uncovered something I was secretly ashamed of in a workshop on Marketing Yourself that Lynan and Jo facilitated.

They talked about the five pillars of marketing yourself. I wouldn’t consider them THE five pillars, but five pillars that you certainly want some awareness around.

1. Living Your Brand
2. Online Presence
3. Website
4. Storytelling
5. Brand Equity

They talked about building engagement by regularly sharing your successes, failures, breakthroughs, and updates with your audience.

As I thought about doing this, I felt a constriction in my chest. I started to feel a tightness as I thought about sharing the entirety of the awesomeness of my life.

Then this crazy thought crept in:

My life is too awesome to share.

I felt comfortable sharing my life when I was struggling to figure my business out. I felt comfortable sharing my most personal failures and fears because I knew that someone out there is going through the exact same thing. But now my life is pure awesomesauce 99.9% of the time.

And I almost feel a little guilty that it’s so great now.

I raised my hand and asked this question and we had a discussion around this idea of not sharing our lives now that they are this good. My main takeaway from the discussion was this:

It’s my responsibility to share the possibilities of what’s available.

Two years ago when I first went to World Domination Summit, I had no idea this life was available to me. I thought the only path to financial freedom was getting an MBA and working at a Fortune 50 company. Which is what I did.

The only reason I am where I’m at today is because a couple brave people wrote extensively about their lives online and I thought to myself, “If they can do it, so can I.”

So to everyone out there who has enjoyed a level of success that you’re still a little uncomfortable with, I offer you this idea.

It’s your duty to share the amazingness of your life.

It’s your duty to share in order to help those one or two steps behind you.

How would you know this life existed if no one ever wrote about it? You didn’t get to where you’re at on your own. You did it by following in the footsteps of others who already walked the path.

If someone doesn’t like you because your life is awesome, then they aren’t your ideal client, business partner, or friend.

If someone makes you feel bad for regularly traveling to foreign countries and working a couple days a week in a swimsuit, then they aren’t your friend anymore. Real friends support you, inspire you, challenge you and love you unconditionally.

So today I drop all shame around having an amazing life.

I worked ridiculously hard for it. And I still am.

So I’m going to get more comfortable with bragging a little.

And in celebration of the successes of all of the incredible people in my tribe I’m going to start Brag Fridays on my .

A place to share your successes from the week. A place to share the updates on what you’re working on. A place to get a pat on the back.

A place to be seen.

So get ready to get your brag on. You earned it.